The War of the Sexes

“The man is the head of the family!” “No way! Everything in a relationship depends on the woman. The woman makes the man!” and so on and so forth. Who's right and who's wrong? And who really dominates a relationship?

Kabbalah says: neither! In a healthy relationship, the Creator is the one who dominates. But what does the Creator have to do with our relationships, you might ask?

According to Kabbalah, “the Creator” is the quality of unconditional love and giving. And when spouses wish to attain this quality, they rise above egoism and no longer need to fight over who's right and who's wrong. It becomes easier to make concessions to one another if the goal is to attain the spiritual qualities of love and bestowal.

In fact, by sharing this common goal they begin to love one another even more, because by pursuing the quality of absolute love and bestowal, they expand their ability to love and give to each other. But most importantly, they learn how to love and give to the Creator.

Such a relationship changes the rules in the War of the Sexes: The winner is the one who loves most.